Communication is a vital tool in any relationship, especially marriage. Most of all conflicts that occur in relationships are a result of poor communication or lack of communication.
Tyler and I have been married 15 years. I can’t recall all of our arguments and struggles, which is probably a good thing:), but I can guarantee that poor communication or lack of communication was an underlying factor.
A recent trial in our marriage, forced us both to examine ourselves, individually and as a unit, before The Lord. The Lord convicted us both on how we had failed often in our communication with one another.
No one modeled communication better than The Lord himself. He communicated His love when he laid down His life for us. That’s the kind of communicator I wanted to be!
So I began to seek out scripture that would help me better communicate with my spouse. His word covers it all! Conflict resolution is actually obedience to the Word of God. I also realized, that how I communicate with my spouse can make or break my marriage.
Below are some scriptures that I have gathered together (with the help of homebuilders resources) to remind us how to interact with one another in a way that honors and reflects our Lord. I pray these scriptures will also help you better communicate with your spouse. And a result, our marriages can reflect the Gospel.
(James 1:19). I will be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. I will listen sincerely and attentively without interrupting.
(1 Thessalonians 5:11) I will encourage my spouse and verbally express love. I will foster openness and trust with my responses.
(Ephesians 4:29) I will take my communication cues from Christ and from His example; I will speak the truth in love, using my words to give life in ways appropriate to the circumstances.
(Ephesians 4:15) I will share intimately, openly, and honestly about what I think, feel, and need in a situation. I will discuss it logically and patiently.
(2 Corinthians 12:9-10) I will encourage my spouse in times of trial, helping us to persevere and honor God. I will turn toward my spouse, pointing us toward peace, while having faith in God’s goodness, faithfulness, compassion, and sufficiency.
(1 Corinthians 13:1-3) I will make our relationship a priority, reserving time and energy for my spouse.
(Ephesians 5:25-33) I will seek intimate communication by pursuing God with my spouse, letting Him knit our hearts together. I will regularly study the Bible and pray with my spouse, applying Gods principles to our marriage and personal lives.